Friendship could probably be one of those essential and valuable things in life. It however beats logic when ‘a friend in need is a friend in deed’ is mentioned. Are they friends in deed when they are in need? Whatever this means…. friendship must be cherished.
However when ‘no man is an island’, it is apparent that this could just be a desperate way of saying, ‘don’t keep away from friends or else karma will catch up with you’. Scary!
Friendship as well as morality has a way of dealing with anyone who goes against any of its set norms. While they sing ‘what goes around must come round’ we sit back and hope that those who twisted our personal desire, did wrong to us or inflicted us in some way will come round and see. Friendship never existed here.
What actually is the essence of friendship anyway? Does it really matter? Would you consider it a ‘need’ or just a ‘want’? Being in relationship with others need to have some basis; being in a perfect relationship with yourself. Therefore in effort to make ourselves comfortable and happy, we just want to trample on others and draw others closer to us. But do we really need to do that? We need a personal constitution, to guide, direct and shape our behavioral tomorrow. In this case, a Holy Book; the Bible or Quran or something.
These holy books; the Bible, Quran etc are some guide or rather personal constitutions for the heaven bounds. But what do they say about friendship? Looking at Christians, who use the Holy Bible, their lives, relationships and norms are guided by the holy bible to achieve their eternal objective. This is what they live by. However friendship has been given a back seat, assumed and ignored. This is probably true for those Christians who identify with a caliber of ‘friends’.
From Ecclesiastes, John, Proverbs and Psalms we get to understand some characteristics of friendship. The only challenge is how to express this relationship practically. Like all the other bible interpretations, these could be interpreted and misinterpreted depending on the basic understanding and gain of the interpreter.
From Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: if one falls down, his friend can help him up.” It is clear that we all need friends. However, even if we whine over how badly treated we are by those who call themselves our friends, ‘A friend means well, even when he hurts you… Proverbs 27: 6. Get yourself one and never let them go however bad a situation might seem. Once a friend always a friend.
Therefore, whatever friendship means to you, Jesus said; “The greatest love a person can have for his friends is to give his life for them” John 15: 13